The thought and practice of divorce is not easy and there may be some things to deeply consider before making your decision. In addition to this, there are certain legalities that you may find off putting. However, you need to consider the following points carefully and note that a good divorce lawyer will be able to put your mind at ease with the following points.
An event that cannot be overcome
Divorce is sometimes born out of a single event that the couple has difficulty overcoming and feels there is no way to improve the situation. The classic example is of course infidelity but one-off events can also be dismissal from work, irreversible health conditions, domestic violence, personal tragedy and the like. In a marriage where the basis is not strong enough, such an event may be the trigger for the divorce proceedings. That is, although ostensibly the marriage can be put back on track.
Money
The economic reality in a lot of countries, can lead to the dissolution of the family unit. Whether due to an economic crisis that befalls the family and whose end is not in sight, or whether due to the formation of an unequal economic relationship that one of the parties feels they are carrying the financial burden alone etc. If the desire for divorce stems from income disparities, it is important to remember that divorce proceedings also include alimony (for a limited period). It is also important to note that divorces can be costly too, so if you are separating purely for financial reasons, perhaps you need advice first on how to overcome these troubles together if you run a business together or share property, things can get messy when you split.
For the children
Many married couples fail to produce a harmonious and loving family unit. Sometimes the relationship between the couple is problematic, “complex” and full of difficult and quarrelsome arguments. When the couple has joint children who are affected by their parents’ relationship, it may be worth considering “separation of powers” as part of a re-route calculation. It is interesting to see that studies have shown that couples have managed, after divorce proceedings, to improve communication between them and even get along better with the children to create a happier life. Just note, that again separation could result in one parent paying more towards the children’s upbringing than the other. Of course child support payments can be looked into.
It is always important to look at the pros and cons. How does your decision directly affect children, friends and family. On the other hand, happiness is an elusive concept and so you probably do need to consider assistance, advice and the help of your friends and family.
Many married couples are unaware of the legal nuances involved in divorce and make decisions based on incorrect information – Decisions that may be irreversible therefore it is important to make the step cautiously and look at the associated costs and risks. Perhaps your marriage can be resolved and healed in other ways too.
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-Lola